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Feb 12 2012

Random Thoughts on a Sunday Afternoon

It seems like I get lots of random thoughts on Sunday afternoons. Lucky for you (or unlucky maybe), I have no problem sharing them.

  • I was struck yesterday by Luna Moon’s post The Clash. She referenced the cheater’s big dilemma – stay and cheat? Or leave? I know it’s a dilemma that many folks struggle with. And it reminded me of some comments I made recently on the Married Man Sex Life blog. It’s not a dilemma for me.  I’ve known since I married my husband that I would never leave him. I’ve learned through folks who have responded to my comments on that blog and from some of the trolls here that many folks just don’t understand that having sex with someone else does not mean you don’t love and care about your spouse. Some people just can’t see beyond their own reality.
  • Speaking of trolls, I really wish they would engage in conversation rather than just sniping and leaving sarcastic comments. They should know that we welcome the debate, but they seem to just want to judge rather than discuss anything.  That’s really too bad.
  • I got a phone call this morning (actually 10 phone calls) from a 25 year old young man who wouldn’t identify himself.  He said he likes fucking older married women, and lots of other things that I won’t share here.  He wouldn’t say how he got my number or how he knows me. When I wasn’t receptive to his offer, he kept calling, and calling, and calling.  At Daunt’s suggestion, I forwarded my phone to the local police department for a little while. After I stopped the forwarding, the calls didn’t start up again. I hope he got the message that I am not afraid to involve the police. I suppose that’s a message I want to share with all my readers, too. Be nice. Most of you are wonderful.  For the very few who are not, just be nice. Okay?
  • The Nicolas Cage skit on Saturday Night Live last night was hilarious! I guess SNL may be getting good again.  That would be nice.
  • I just realized that I remember season 1 of SNL. Now I feel old.
  • Knitting a blanket just takes too long. It will be summer time before I finish the project I’m working on at the pace I’m going.
  • OMG.  I remember season 1 of SNL  and I’m knitting a blanket. {sigh} Now I feel really old. 
  • There’s a new blog I’m really enjoying – Marriage in the Bedroom I’ll be writing a whole post to tell you why, but if you want a preview, head over there now.  As of today, the most recent post is Brain and Cock are Not Connected, Brain and Pussy Are. The author (Ponyboy) has some great insight.  Add it to your follow list.
  • I just watched a commercial about a devise that you wear around your midsection.  I guess t send electric impulses to your abs and is supposed to give you a six pack without having to do any crunches. Wow! Who are the people who buy that sort of crap…uh…stuff?
  • I miss JJ.  That’s more of a constant thought than a random one, but I’m sharing it anyway.

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  1. fleur.d.laura

    I understand although I am not married. I liked SNL skit last night, we should all be able to laugh at ourselves. I can knit a blanket and I am not old. Love the Sunday musings.

  2. alterego51341

    You have such a great outlook regarding the trolls that occasionally comment on your posts. I find them so tiresome. I think they are the same people you meet at parties that babble on about nothing just to hear the sound of their own voice.

  3. Southern Sir

    Just because one cheats doesn’t mean they don’t care about their spouse. It does sound odd but it is true.

    Haven’t watched SNL in years, maybe it’s time to start checking it out again.

  4. Luna Moon

    My husband and I have been married for 22 years and while I know that I love him, I question whether I am *in* love with him. In all honesty, we were mismatched from the beginning and rushed into marriage and kids too quickly. We never really got to know each other and spend “quality” time together. Now, I think it’s too late!

    BTW I don’t remember the first season of SNL, but I do remember when David Letterman had a morning TV show!

  5. Naughty Kitty

    I’m with Luna on loving my husband but not being “in love” with him. After my brief hiatis I am back in the game. The idea of a man going to any kind of trouble to get to know me or even better…sharing some intimacy with me has become an addiction. This life style is not for everybody and in particular I may not be good at it but I do believe the alternative of hurting a spouse and young children over the fact that I don’t have as many orgasms as I would like is just senseless. And if my good buddy Anonymous is reading…OF COURSE I HAVE DISCUSSED THIS WITH MY HUSBAND!!!

  6. Anonymous

    Is it possible to engage in an affair and to simultaneously maintain a love for one’s spouse? I am doubtful, at least with my working definition of love in mind. Does true love not imply a kind of selflessness brought on by caring for another as deeply as you would, ideally, care for yourself? Doesn’t betrayal (even under the notion of keeping it hidden) contradict that understanding of love?

    I must of course acknowledge that my definition of love is not all inclusive and that such a definition casts a harsh light on other activities aside from affairs. Still, I am curious. Thoughts welcome.

  7. Ponyboy

    Kat…

    Very appreciative for the support. I’m looking forward to your post later today.

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