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Dec 20 2012

End of an Era…and Some Other Thoughts

End of an Era

I never thought this would happen, but Strange Hotel Guy sold the hotel. The place that JJ and I used as our “home base” for about a year and a half is now owned by someone else. It’s really a shame because it took us a long time to train Strange Hotel Guy (JJ calls him Creepy Hotel Guy), his wife Mrs. Strange, and the Strange kids. They knew which room we wanted. They didn’t require a credit card.  Toward the end, they didn’t even require ID.

I walked in once and Mrs. Strange said, “Hi, Kat! How are you today?” (Wow! She knew my name! I guess showing up over 50 times had an impact.)

What I said: “I’m great, thank you.  How are you?”
What I thought; “I’m awesome! Just a few minutes away from a nice hard fucking.  How’s Mr. Strange serving you these days?”

No more Strange Hotel Guy.  No more Strange Family.  Eegads! This means we have to find another hotel that won’t take a credit card.  And we have train new staff all over again. {sigh}

Truly, this is the end of an era. Maybe it’s time to take it back out to the country roads again.

A Few Things I Have to Get Off My Chest

This first thing I had decided I wasn’t ever going to mention, but I think enough time has passed (several weeks) so I can be somewhat graceful about it. There is a certain blog that posts a Top 100 Sex Bloggers list each year.  The list is decided by a single individual – the owner and author of the blog. I’m sure she gets some input from her friends, which makes perfect sense, of course, but there is no formal process for making the determination. It’s just the blogs she likes.

However, most people are not aware of this and they assume that the blogs on the list are the cream of the crop. To be fair, there are some excellent blogs on her list. There’s also some crap.  But that’s just MY individual opinion.

Last year, I was on the list. I think I was number 35 or something like that.  This year, I wasn’t on the list at all. Huh?  Really? Not at all? Yes, Prowlers, not at all. Clearly, I did something to piss this person off, even though I have never said a negative word about her or her blog. I’m not mentioning her name now or the name of her blog so I don’t break that record.

But it did piss me off.  More than a little, certainly more than it should have.

“What’s the big deal, Kat?” Well, obviously, my ego is bruised. But it’s not just that.  Being on her list is a traffic bonanza because lots of people search for lists of sex blogs.  Many of you found PWK through that list, didn’t you?

I’ve passed “getting it off my chest” and now I’m moving officially into whining.  It takes a lot of work to keep a blog going. Regular posting isn’t as easy as it seems. Being creative and producing quality posts are not a walk in the park, either. I don’t do it to be on anyone’s list. I do it for myself…and for you guys.

I should stop now or I’ll say something I regret.

Next topic…..

The topic of LOVE has come up recently in several emails and conversations with readers, so I want to review a few things here. I wrote about Heartache about a year ago. The point of that post was to keep your eyes open and keep your wits about you when you’re in an affair or affair-type relationship.  I’ve had my heart stomped on a few times now. It sucks. But I’m still a believer in loving.  So far, after the pain subsides, I’ve never regretted loving someone, but I have regretted holding myself back and not letting myself love.

Here’s another post about love in an extramarital relationship – That Pesky L Word. This one is definitely worth a read.

For the friend who asked me recently if she should pull back because the man she’s in love with doesn’t love her….. I am SO the wrong person to answer this question, but for what it’s worth…. Don’t think you can change him. Accept him for who he is. If you can really be happy without him loving you (unlikely), then go for it, but don’t assume you can make him love you or want you more. If you can’t live with the fact that he’s always going to keep that emotional wedge between you, then by all means, protect yourself emotionally.  Either pull back emotionally or end the relationship. Take care of yourself. Do what feels right.  Usually, if you’re honest with yourself, you know what that is.

A final thought on that…. Generally speaking, I’d rather regret something I did than something I didn’t do.  I’m just sayin’…..

As for the end of the world…..

Well, it’s been nice knowing you, Prowlers. Gee, since the world is ending tomorrow and there won’t be any backlash, I should probably just speak my mind on the 100 Sex Blogger list, huh? LOL. I don’t think so.

Ryan wrote a special post just for this event. It’s the End of the World As We Know It is a great title and a great song. For those of you who may not be familiar with Ryan’s blog, The Ashley Madison Adventures of  Regular Guy Gone Bad, Ryan references music a lot…..and food. And he’s funny. Take a few minutes and read some of his posts.  You’ll like them.  But read them quickly because the world is ending, so you don’t have much time.

I was talking with JJ this week and one of us brought up the end of world. Here’s a snippet of that conversation:

Kat: If the end of the world on Friday is actually the Rapture, then I won’t be going anywhere.

JJ: Me, either.  I guess I’ll see you next month, then.

Seriously, I don’t believe the world will end tomorrow.  However, it shouldn’t matter. We should all be prepared to go at any time. Have you lived the life you wanted to live?  Have you done the things you wanted to do? I learned this lesson from Steve

Live like there’s no tomorrow.

Live now. Love now. 

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  1. Advizor54

    When I was writing more erotica and really trying to make a run at the blogger thing, I would nudge a couple of my friends to mention me to a couple of those list makers, but, to no avail. I never got mentioned and it really bummed me out. And then I read the list. I didn’t find you that way, but I did find some good blogs and so that’s fine, but then, OMGOSH, I kept reading, and many of the blogs were crap. Serious crap, and that’s fine. I have several people who have told me that my blog is crap, but I don’t want to talk about my mother right now.

    I love your blog (just in case you didn’t already know) and the fact that this other, unmentionable person, found other blogs to mention this year has NOTHING to do with the quality of your blog. You are great, the blog is great, I’m great, dark chocolate chips are really great. So it’s all good. And I used the “L” word with an on-line friend, and it was wonderful.

  2. Anonymous

    I could not believe it either. I found your blog through her list last year and yours is the only one I still read regularly from the list! Please carry with the fine writing and stories.

  3. Lola

    We’re sorry you didn’t make the list. 🙁

  4. Kat

    Thank you, Friends. And thanks for indulging my whining. I’ll move on now….

  5. Ryan Beaumont

    You should have bought the strange hotel and had it as your strange second home with JJ and then set it up as the home base of your high priced call girl second job side business as part of your open marriage.

    That’s it that would have been the celestial convergence and movement into a new age or Baktun.

    Missed opportunity – keep looking though and enjoying the rapture you have self created.

  6. Ryan Beaumont

    And thanks for the mention!

    As I say you are always the Good Housekeeping Seal of Approval! 🙂

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